But how often do we hear the nitty-gritty of how we can actually better understand our deepest desires and most embarrassing questions? Bustle has enlisted Vanessa Marin, a sex therapist , to help us out with the details. No gender, sexual orientation, or question is off limits, and all questions remain anonymous. That freaks him out, and makes him feel like he's being mean, so he doesn't dominate me as often as I'd like. I'm not sure why I start crying — I just feel a lot in the moment, and it's like it brings something up I didn't know is there. Why do people sometimes cry during sex and does it mean you should stop doing something?
Why Do Some People Cry During Sex? A Sex Therapist Weighs In
10 Reasons Why You're Crying During Sex
When you imagine having sex that you're totally into, crying probably isn't part of the picture. But sometimes when you're in the middle of doing the deed, your emotions take over and you suddenly find tears leaking out of your eyes. You might feel surprised depending on the situation, but being overcome with feelings during the act is actually pretty normal, even when you actively want to have sex. Here, 7 women show as much by sharing the reasons they've cried during sex. Some are heartbreaking while others are incredibly sweet, but all of them prove that there's absolutely nothing wrong with getting emotional during sex.
Why Crying During Sex Is a Thing—Even When It’s Consensual, Enjoyable, and Loving
They might be happy tears, tears of relief, or a bit of melancholy. Tears during or after sex can also be a purely physical reaction. Clinically speaking, crying after sex is known as postcoital dysphoria PCD or — occasionally — postcoital tristesse PCT. PCD symptoms may include tearfulness, sadness, and irritability after consensual sex, even if it was perfectly satisfying.
When sex with your partner is fun, happy, and—most importantly—consensual, your mind and body are liable to react in a number of different ways. Your feel-good emotions run high, and your adrenaline pumps, and the result may include you shaking, moaning, writhing, or even laughing with joy. And according to sex therapists, there are a number of reasons this emotional response is a completely and totally normal experience. Another possible explanation of why an orgasm may bring about tears is that the heightened experience can be—in addition to full of pleasure—frightening or startling, leading people to feel out of control. To this point, Cooper says that if sex or masturbation is followed by uncontrollable fits of crying, seeing a sex therapist may be an appropriate next step.